190_Reckoning

“We have ways to make men talk”:

Cooper, Gary, ‘The Lives of a Bengal Dancer’, Film, 1935, UK.

A film about the occupation of the British Army in India, based on a book:

Yeats-Brown, Francis, British Army Officer, (Similar title to: The Lives of a Bengal Dancer), 1930, UK.

The fact Men do not talk has gone on for centuries, because not only have women climbed the career ladder, and won the vote, but: they also have sexual rights, not to be harmed by their partners, and find themselves with “Girl Power”, thanks to the Spice Girls. And a heart that makes Men go weak at the knees, for good looks, and unique erogenous zones.

There are only so many ways a Man can interact with this World, when he is stuck between protecting his babes, and wife, and making out with glory on his mind.

There was once a Man who said I will have them all, but he fell short to tell everyone how it felt: either he had used himself, or he had used all of them; so misguided, to say he would not commit, that this means he is basically talking out of his mind, and into their body, not a wise decision, when candidly he has no self-esteem to be the Man for his Woman, and make out with just the one lady.

If there was a time, someone had all the best of their preferred sex, they would have made themselves into an icon of sex and love, and not really been considered to have a mind, or an iconic status worthy of recognition, because they had never put the hard work in, to be so committed, and therefore, ended up making love to everyone, and never really made much money. Yet, this is plausibly a generational problem of today that everyone wants to be sexually idolised, where it leads to though is: promiscuity and out of marital affairs, and this is not wise.

There is always a parable to the fact that there is someone out there for you, when you know you may be ready and she may not be, or vice versa, and so your paths cross and you never find each other until much later, when it is too late to conceive a child, for both of you.

Finally, you marry, and always wonder why you chose Him or Her, because you don’t exactly know why you are in love: if that is not enough - you are making out, whoever you chose in wedded bliss is not perfect enough and anyone else who is valued to you as attractive, is your Magnificat to consecrate your life with. When that’s not perfect love. There is a format to make it work, just to ignore everyone else and focus on the two of you making it work; unless fettered by a better alternative, and it is time to leave, time to move on, and make your life for the good. This is an upheaval because you tend to expect more from your new soldier, however much you miss the first partner, and you never share in the good things.

So, where is cupid, if not God, and every man wonders, who are you? And how come it is us? Well, you must not worry, the sex is good, you are there for each other, and really, only a small percentage of us make it into perfect love and compassion, as opposed to something more hardcore.

When you begin on your own sexual exploits, always get your Man to wear a condom, and go on wearing one, you do not need an army of unforeseen children. And make out with the one person a few times before dumping them, if not, there will be a hatred between you, and you will find if there was a connection at first, it could have grown and blossomed into something more.

If you are convinced you are not a good match after falling in first, then just politely stay in touch by text until you are both in realisation that there is nothing more to be said.

Once you have tried the field, you will find there is somebody for everyone, and it could be one of four types of love:

1.     Perfect Love

2.    True Love

3.    Sexual Love

4.    Fatal Love

Perfect love is a must for those not understanding what it has taken someone else, to confide in each other: what love really means to them and you find a heavenly, holy love of perfection, as described in the Bible, something unexplainable, because you will never leave each other’s side for anyone else; you are one and the same, yet exotic to each other.

True Love, is a form of truth between each other, that you fit together, based on cultural and experiential spaces and places. A truth cannot be broken but is not as wholesome as perfect love. It means to have things in common.

Sexual Love would be best avoided, unless you have not had a great deal of fun recently, otherwise it is always full of regret, sexual love is a lust for attractiveness but never knowing what the other is thinking like perfect love.

Fatal Love is a kind of love that you fall head over heels with a look: a pair of boobs or an ass and you know nothing of them. It is not to dominate but to be dominated, while most Men only talk of this, to each other, it is just futile talk down the pub, while the real boss is at home.

Infatuation helps us to succumb, and fall in love, with the way someone acts and behaves, looks, and seems. But be careful if they are not up for it, then there is no way in. So, how do we best deal with infatuation of possibly a younger girl or older woman. We can ask, if they have ever lost their virginity, and only if clean: offer our services after some polite conversation.

We are not here to show off, but show the way, so educate in the bedroom, and communicate, otherwise we can be accused of ripping someone off, and making them cum, for our own sake.

What infatuation feeds: is purely the genitals and a mind focused on them. When in perfect love we feed each other to be better people, and achieve goals in our vocations, it is a hard lesson to learn, so, many people play outside the relationship not to grow up with each other but take the better of each other’s values.

Perfect love is all there is, to remain consummate before getting married, and to be in love, rather than hedonistic chauvinism on both sides. The mind does wonder about other people but when you get home to your loved one, you can embrace with that “knowing” of each other, and that is all it takes to be in love; because you know you were made for each other since childhood. Love is psychic and conjectural, because: credence is what we need, for each other’s hearts to be healed, both of us in good health.

A-men

Love, AB. x