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Wanderlust is a German word, which means: “to wander”. And lust means: “desire”. It means to not want to stay in one place, but to travel, not to go anywhere, but to just go!
My wanderlust has made me potentially a better parent, coming from a humble middle-class background into a real, raw, core, framework of reality from across the globe. However, ‘wander’ also translates to, aimlessly travel, i.e. similar to what we have just defined, and the following: to be unfaithful to one’s regular sexual partner, which really is not good parenting!
Good parenting is like good music, it invigorates the parent and child to have energy and to do good. It comes from a firm foundation and builds on every experience, which is why it is so important to get it right on the first footing, and every step from there forwards.
It is incommunicado to make parenting troublesome when we all need communication and understanding of our weaknesses and strengths. A younger child will still need to have ours explained, just as we discover our similarities and differences, as we learn and study theirs. To collaborate between wife and husband, much like song and musician often makes the best parenting or music, respectively. Therefore, we should try to coalesce, one should be used to being in one another’s pockets and true love with the children or song will see us through.
We are as Dad’s just as likely to dote on our children as Mum’s, as we see the gain of the metro-sexual male, in touch with his feelings.
Great music like parenting should be celebratory of our shared passion for creation and like a win on the football field for British boys & girls. Masai celebrate ‘Enkipaata’: this is where a group of 14/16 year old boys travel for four months with elders. A collection of houses built for the boys, and the head boy is chosen, the ‘Olopolosi olkiteng’; once children reach teenage years, it is harder to keep up with them, but we will have had so many golden moments with them prior to that day. The ceramics on the wall celebrating each birthday. The mug’s in the kitchen celebrating Dad’s! The tea-set for Mum and the gifts keep on coming as we enjoy more and more each Birthday, Easter & Christmas. Important Christian festivals of the birth of a child, the crucifixion, and the great birth of Christ.
A collage of past years makes us realise how far we have come, and how we look differently these days. A stencil of the family or cut-out silhouettes makes a lovely decoration. We are the making of our home-made gifts and they mean so much more! My wooden toy robot on my desk, will go to a future child, which is the epitome of wonderful childhood magic that I can conjure shapes and forms with his body, and make him talk, now named Robert the Robot – makes a keepsake of unlimited joy.
Music also has a passion for changing our moods like the difference between well-behaved and naughty children. Music rises and falls like a child taking his/her first steps. Music should be nurturing: ‘positive and negative’, it should help us to rise out of struggle, it should be a stimulus and inspiration. While children are reciprocally stimulating, ‘we’ as the parents must ultimately stimulate and inspire our children ourselves. We, like the music need to be empowering and fall nothing of effectual. Therefore, our parenting must be impactive, we can do this by offering a child choice and teaching them of healthy, good, and emotionally nourishing results.
“I am here to make you feel womanly, and protected, in all seriousness.”
Music needs to be purposeful with a message – to fill a need – for it to exist! It can be somewhat political. But try to leave politics out of parenting, and just show unconditional love. It is far more culturally dynamic parenting children, so, politics can be left at the door. Arguments in front of children are a definite no-no. Be at peace, you are married for a reason under God. Never wander far or too lustfully once you have settled, with children. Then start travelling with them once old enough, and keep up the reality check of teaching of: poverty, disease, science, religion, history, language, art, architecture, and above all analogies to help them understand themselves in the World!
God Bless you all.
Andrew x
